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Post by someone on May 28, 2012 18:01:34 GMT -5
I'm only 5 weeks and my MIL has asked at least a dozen times if I'm having the ultrasound tech write down the gender to send to her. She is so excited because she still has a crib and bumper set from over 30 years ago. She already wants to know nursery colors and wants to get started on my baby bedding. Um, I sew, I had planned on making my bedding. And I have no idea about colors and whatnot.
Next time, I'm waiting until at least the 2nd trimester to tell her. Maybe I'll pretend to be one of those people who didn't know I was pregnant until I'm in labor. I'm glad she's excited and i call her at least once a day to help her feel included but it's getting old already. She's said at least 6 times that it's not about me, it's about her. I laughed the first time, chuckled the second time, and now I just roll my eyes.
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Post by gardenwitch on May 28, 2012 18:41:32 GMT -5
Put her to work researching whether that crib is even considered safe anymore....my grandson couldn't even use his mother's crib and she had him at 17!
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Post by someone on May 28, 2012 18:52:05 GMT -5
It's way recalled. Drop down side and wide openings. But her kids did fine so it's OK she says. She also smoked and drank but that doesn't mean I'm willing to take that risk.
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Post by susie on May 28, 2012 20:36:43 GMT -5
Oh boy. I'd figure out a nice way to include her, but still do things the way YOU want. Easier said than done, I know.
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Post by Jodi on May 29, 2012 7:19:38 GMT -5
Change your number!!!!  |
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Post by ncnative on May 29, 2012 7:23:25 GMT -5
Tell her it was a false alarm.
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Post by Maureen on May 29, 2012 9:10:54 GMT -5
I would not use a bedding set that old! The dust and crap in it would not be good.  I'm sorry she is not making this a fun experiMce. |
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Post by someone on May 29, 2012 11:26:25 GMT -5
Tell her it was a false alarm. Haha! I feel bad because before I was pregnant I was excited because I knew she would be supportive and excited for the baby. I thought about how great it would be to have her help with the experience but now I just want to take my baby and run and hide. It's been a week and she's driving me crazy! I knew she would whine if I didn't talk to her a lot so we've talked 1-3 times every single day usually for hours a day. I'm not trying to exclude her but she sure makes me want to. Her whole "it's not about you, it's about me" thing went from joking to saying it very serious and matter of factly. I told my husband I need his help because I'm afraid once the hormones kick in I'm going to say something I shouldnt. I used to try to convince him to get a job near home but now I'm wondering how far can we get? I don't want to feel this way. I was excited about making her a grandma but she is making this very hard on me. If we lived there I know she'd be bringing over beat up, unsafe crap from garage sales or the side of the road. I'm not the kind to think everything needs to be new but i do appreciate something CLEAN and SAFE, 2 things not on her radar. Hell, cuteness isn't even a factor for her either. Thanks for letting me vent. I'm afraid if i didn't do it here I'd regret it later with an outburst. |
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Post by someone on May 29, 2012 11:26:45 GMT -5
Tell her it was a false alarm. Haha! I feel bad because before I was pregnant I was excited because I knew she would be supportive and excited for the baby. I thought about how great it would be to have her help with the experience but now I just want to take my baby and run and hide. It's been a week and she's driving me crazy! I knew she would whine if I didn't talk to her a lot so we've talked 1-3 times every single day usually for hours a day. I'm not trying to exclude her but she sure makes me want to. Her whole "it's not about you, it's about me" thing went from joking to saying it very serious and matter of factly. I told my husband I need his help because I'm afraid once the hormones kick in I'm going to say something I shouldnt. I used to try to convince him to get a job near home but now I'm wondering how far can we get? I don't want to feel this way. I was excited about making her a grandma but she is making this very hard on me. If we lived there I know she'd be bringing over beat up, unsafe crap from garage sales or the side of the road. I'm not the kind to think everything needs to be new but i do appreciate something CLEAN and SAFE, 2 things not on her radar. Hell, cuteness isn't even a factor for her either. Thanks for letting me vent. I'm afraid if i didn't do it here I'd regret it later with an outburst. |
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Post by gardenwitch on May 29, 2012 13:05:51 GMT -5
How needy is this woman? Wow! No, it's not all about her, it's all about YOU, as you are the one who's pregnant and your child's safety is always going to be first! If she isn't listening to you then her son DOES need to pound that into her head. You worked way too long for this baby to compromise it's safety with a recalled crib or other junk. There's a reason for the recalls, babies DIED or were seriously hurt!
If you need to go off on her, just do it. You can always blame the hormones. ;-)
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Post by susie on May 29, 2012 13:52:24 GMT -5
If you need to go off on her, just do it. You can always blame the hormones. ;-) Yes, I like this idea.  |
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Post by someone on May 29, 2012 15:15:26 GMT -5
I'm thinking of ways she can help to get her off my back.
I'm going to think of things I'd like but wouldn't pay full price for, not things I NEED. One would be the lightweight thing you snap an infant seat into instead of a regular stroller. Not a need but if found cheap enough used I'd love it. So I will think of some more and ask her to troll craigslist for me. Any other suggestions that she hopefully couldn't mess up too much?
It's not about her, it's not even about me. It's about this baby and hopefully bringing it into the world safely and healthy. But if it's about anyone it's me as the incubator and my husband and I as the parents.
She told me a few times that I need to have an elective scheduled c section to fit her schedule. This is going to be worse than the wedding. She was butt hurt that I didn't let her plan the entire wedding herself and hated me for years, told lies about me too.
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Post by gardenwitch on May 29, 2012 15:42:30 GMT -5
She told me a few times that I need to have an elective scheduled c section to fit her schedule. Oh he!! No, I would have flipped on her and not given a damn how many feelings I hurt. Find a "How to be the grandma that your kids don't hate" book and send that to her. ;D |
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Post by Deb on May 29, 2012 22:42:36 GMT -5
Has she decided what she wants to be called by the grandchildren?
My Mom is Grandma and my MIL is Nana
Dad is Pop Pop and FIL is Pop-o
(I didn't select any of these names, these were all inherited due to other grandchildren ahead of mine.)
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Post by someone on May 30, 2012 2:40:10 GMT -5
Has she decided what she wants to be called by the grandchildren? My Mom is Grandma and my MIL is Nana Dad is Pop Pop and FIL is Pop-o (I didn't select any of these names, these were all inherited due to other grandchildren ahead of mine.) Not as far as I know. My parents will be Yaya and Bapa which was given to them 18 years ago (I can't believe she's graduated high school! She had just turned 13 a couple of weeks before our wedding) |
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I'm sorry she is not making this a fun experiMce.