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Post by Jodi on Feb 11, 2012 8:20:35 GMT -5
I wouldn't shoot the laptop. I also think if your child keeps putting crap up about you on Facebook, why not do the same to her? She probably didn't truly understand why they were upset about it until it was done to her.
I would also have her delete her facebook and whatever else she had and ban her from the computer.
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Post by Deb on Feb 11, 2012 8:27:41 GMT -5
No, I don't have a child who is mentally ill.
My point is, unless you've have had to deal with a teenage spawn, you have NO IDEA how you would react to their shenanigans.
Just as an example: When my oldest was born, harnesses/leashes on toddlers were all the rage. I thought it was the most horrid item ever invented.
Fast forward to when my youngest was a toddler. Yeah, I had him in a harness.
Once that child was mobile, he was a wild child and there.was.nothing. that would work to tame him when he was out and about. I DID leave him home most of the time, but, there were times when I did have to take him to the store with me.
It wasn't just a convenience for me to have him on a leash, it was for his safety. He was a complete angel on the leash, but take it off and holy shiznit!
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Post by susie on Feb 11, 2012 8:37:38 GMT -5
Grown ups should have enough control over their emotions to not act like passive-aggressive high-school girls when their teenagers act like teenagers. Teenagers will always act ungrateful and put upon, but if your 15 year old is a spoiled snot, it's your fault. It really is too bad more parents don't talk to their children. I got the impression from the video that he does talk to his daughter. Before I watched it, I thought he went too far. After, I thought he was right. I personally wouldn't have shot a laptop, but at least he's parenting his child, unlike most people these days. He actually reminded me a lot of my dad. I don't think he'd have shot a laptop, but he would've taken it away and I wouldn't have seen it again. My kid is not having his own electronics when he's old enough. He'll get a cell later, and it'll be a programmable one where he can only call certain numbers, and no texting. I wouldn't let a teen have a personal laptop in the first place. I had to use the family computer in the living room, that way my parents could see what I was doing on it. |
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Post by Maureen on Feb 11, 2012 8:41:07 GMT -5
And my big sister used to beat the shit out of me and my little sister at the bus stop, then call CPS and say my mom did it. We almost got taken away so many times, and all because big sis was in trouble for being stupid and she wanted to get back at mom. My mom has always worked night so the three kids all got ready and went to school by ourselves. At that time it wasn't a big deal and we usually did fine. Except sometimes when my brother and I would fight. He would come at me with weapons. (he's a pacifist now so its kinda funny to think of him like that) we beat the hell out of each other. Once he got me with a broken broomstick and I was all scratched up on my side. I scratched the shit out of him in return. We both ended up at the nurse the clean the cuts and they called CPS thinking our parents were hurting us. That was the last time we got into a really bad physical fight. |
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Post by heather on Feb 11, 2012 20:25:33 GMT -5
My point is, unless you've have had to deal with a teenage spawn, you have NO IDEA how you would react to their shenanigans. I didn't say anything about how I would/wouldn't react, or even about how I *think or hope* I would/wouldn't react. For all I know, I'd blow up the house and set my car on fire if K did something like that. All I said is that adults should be able to control their emotions, which is true, that the guy is acting like a passive-aggressive teenager himself, which is true, and that people should talk to their kids, which is also true. You don't have to have teenagers to know when another adult is acting like a child. You don't have to have a car to know someone drives badly. You don't have to have been mugged to know it probably isn't fun. |
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Post by meaniepants on Feb 11, 2012 22:25:57 GMT -5
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Post by gardenwitch on Feb 11, 2012 23:03:56 GMT -5
Talk to a teenager??? What a novel concept!! That's a two way street sweetheart.
Yes, I am the one with the psycho child. And two perfectly normal ones. And yes, she was pretty much behaving abnormally from a fairly young age. She didn't just reach 14 and go berserk or something.
One of her counselors told me you are done raising your kids by the time they are 13, all you can do after that is hold on for the ride and hope you instilled some valuable lessons to guide them through life.
There's been many a time, I've just looked at one of them and told them, we raised you to know better than that.
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Post by heather on Feb 11, 2012 23:08:04 GMT -5
Talk to a teenager??? What a novel concept!! That's a two way street sweetheart. Yes, I am the one with the psycho child. And two perfectly normal ones. And yes, she was pretty much behaving abnormally from a fairly young age. She didn't just reach 14 and go berserk or something. That's why I made the clarification I did. In your case, there are clearly other factors in play. |
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Post by gardenwitch on Feb 11, 2012 23:11:01 GMT -5
Bwhahaha!! The kid and her Dad have come to a truce, LOL! Guess all the Go DAD's made her see the light!!
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Post by Jodi on Feb 12, 2012 0:37:49 GMT -5
I'm terrified to have teenagers. I was a nightmare when I was one.
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Post by heather on Feb 12, 2012 3:06:23 GMT -5
I didn't want to quote this earlier because I couldn't remember where I read it, but I found it. Maybe this is why I think the guy could have taken a deep breath and at least attempted to be objective. No horrible thing that a teenager thinks or does is new. Nothing about the way they act spoiled and ungracious and dramatic is unusual. Every teenager, including ourselves, or at least me, thinks their parents are wretched until we actually grow up and realize that we were either wrong about them, and we were teenaged assholes, or we realize we were right and our relationships with our parents crumble. But there is a reason the vast majority of teenagers act the same way, act OUT the same way, react the same way to what they view as unjust servitude. It's because they have no perspective, and an adult does and should behave accordingly. "The answer is that those troublesome traits don't really characterize adolescence; they're just what we notice most because they annoy us or put our children in danger." In any case, the following article is a really good read. ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2011/10/teenage-brains/dobbs-text |
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Post by skooch on Feb 12, 2012 12:52:37 GMT -5
The older I get, the smarter my mom gets.
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Post by Jodi on Feb 12, 2012 13:04:29 GMT -5
ditto Skooch.
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Post by skooch on Feb 12, 2012 13:44:27 GMT -5
I also realized my dad is pretty dumb, but he works hard, means well, and stands by his convictions.
My mom is kinda two-faced too, lol.
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Post by Maureen on Feb 12, 2012 14:40:04 GMT -5
I also realized my dad is pretty dumb, but he works hard, means well, and stands by his convictions. My mom is kinda two-faced too, lol. I've almost realized the same. My mom holds onto "not being a hypocrite" so much that it actually inhibits her ability to parent properly. I've decided I don't give a fuck if I'm a hypocrite or not. My doing stupid shit growing up just means I have concrete reasons as to why you shouldn't do stupid shit growing up and you can trust that I know what I'm talking about. My dad... my dad was a hard ass. Too much so but he worked hard to provide for us and I admire that. |
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