Post by justmesharon on Sept 15, 2011 20:21:41 GMT -5
and maybe get some advice too....
"I'll start out by saying I have had little to no respect for my mom for a very long time many yrs to be exact.
She let my father beat and abuse me growing up.
She showered my younger brother with more love and material items than she did me and practically shoved me to the side and to this day still does.(I'm a grown woman and take care of my own now with my husband) and my brother with a wife and 2 kids still depends on my mom 95%.
There are several things legally I can't even go into here also.
But what I can talk about is how my mom and family are hypocritical "Christians" who praise God in church on Sunday and then get in their car and call Homosexuals derogatory names(you can just imagine) call blacks the yep you guessed it that word,tell the younger nieces,nephews,cousins,grandkids,etc if they date or marry outside their race they'll go to Hell. get a tattoo or piercing other than ears they'll go to hell,how being a Baptist is the only way to Heaven..
My mother jumped all over me for eating 4 mini perogi's at 7:30pm (I had not eaten since 11am that morning),I asked her why she was so concerned about me eating she yelled out at me "Your heart" well my heart is fine I'm healthy. the funny thing is right before she went to bed she ate 2 philly steak and cheese hot pockets
there are tons of stuff over the yrs too much to put on here,several suicide attempts,lies told,one ups,injuries faked,she says and does things to make others feel sorry for her.she wants to be the center of attention constantly.
Anyway this week was the final straw I found out she told a bold face lie about me she told my brother ,SIL and step dad that when she was here in June after my surgery that I stole her visa debit card and took $1200 from her account. NO she gave me her card to buy some groceries stuff she likes to eat,sodas she drinks,she brought pizza a few nights for the family,fast food,etc she spent maybe $200-300 for 2 weeks not 1200 the $1200 was what the bank was taking out for her bills and everything.
So there is the story. if i confront her about it she'll just pop a bunch of pills and then put all the blame on me,I'll have all her brothers and sisters(10 of them) calling and blaming me for her suicide attempt telling what a terrible daughter I am ,yada yada.
So my DH told me to just stop answering the phone when she calls. LOL.
I seriously don't know what to do this relationship is toxic."
Hopefully you can see Can ya see why I have such a hard time with religion, how can you be a Christian and be that kind of person? I know not all Christians are like my family though, I know there are good ones out there, but when you grow up around the bad ones it is hard to see the good in people.
I can't fathom that if there is a God out there he is an unloving God,a God like the one my family worships,I can't believe that if Heaven exist it's the kind of Heaven people like my family will be at,I don't want to spend eternity in a place like that.
I feel so conflicted right now my heart just hurts so much.
"I'll start out by saying I have had little to no respect for my mom for a very long time many yrs to be exact.
She let my father beat and abuse me growing up.
She showered my younger brother with more love and material items than she did me and practically shoved me to the side and to this day still does.(I'm a grown woman and take care of my own now with my husband) and my brother with a wife and 2 kids still depends on my mom 95%.
There are several things legally I can't even go into here also.
But what I can talk about is how my mom and family are hypocritical "Christians" who praise God in church on Sunday and then get in their car and call Homosexuals derogatory names(you can just imagine) call blacks the yep you guessed it that word,tell the younger nieces,nephews,cousins,grandkids,etc if they date or marry outside their race they'll go to Hell. get a tattoo or piercing other than ears they'll go to hell,how being a Baptist is the only way to Heaven..
My mother jumped all over me for eating 4 mini perogi's at 7:30pm (I had not eaten since 11am that morning),I asked her why she was so concerned about me eating she yelled out at me "Your heart" well my heart is fine I'm healthy. the funny thing is right before she went to bed she ate 2 philly steak and cheese hot pockets
there are tons of stuff over the yrs too much to put on here,several suicide attempts,lies told,one ups,injuries faked,she says and does things to make others feel sorry for her.she wants to be the center of attention constantly.
Anyway this week was the final straw I found out she told a bold face lie about me she told my brother ,SIL and step dad that when she was here in June after my surgery that I stole her visa debit card and took $1200 from her account. NO she gave me her card to buy some groceries stuff she likes to eat,sodas she drinks,she brought pizza a few nights for the family,fast food,etc she spent maybe $200-300 for 2 weeks not 1200 the $1200 was what the bank was taking out for her bills and everything.
So there is the story. if i confront her about it she'll just pop a bunch of pills and then put all the blame on me,I'll have all her brothers and sisters(10 of them) calling and blaming me for her suicide attempt telling what a terrible daughter I am ,yada yada.
So my DH told me to just stop answering the phone when she calls. LOL.
I seriously don't know what to do this relationship is toxic."
Hopefully you can see Can ya see why I have such a hard time with religion, how can you be a Christian and be that kind of person? I know not all Christians are like my family though, I know there are good ones out there, but when you grow up around the bad ones it is hard to see the good in people.
I can't fathom that if there is a God out there he is an unloving God,a God like the one my family worships,I can't believe that if Heaven exist it's the kind of Heaven people like my family will be at,I don't want to spend eternity in a place like that.
I feel so conflicted right now my heart just hurts so much.