Gah, in-laws are a PAIN!

[gardenwitch]

So, Dh's Dad calls and grannie's in the hospital, Duh, we already knew that. Lays this HUGE guilt trip on Dh, she's real bad off, he needs to come home etc. What FIL doesn't know is WE get daily updates on how she is and what SHE wants from the aunt who cared for her.

What his Dad doesn't tell us is that Dad (FIL), two of the aunts and a uncle showed up at the other aunt's (the one who was taking care of grannie with NO help from any of them) and started WWIII in her home because Grannie is in the hospital and they weren't told. None of them has even bothered to call and ask how she is since around Christmas anyway.

She's 93, she's feisty as hell and didn't want everyone knowing she was in the hospital as "they all fly about acting like buzzards waiting for me to die."

But of course they can't accept it was grannie's wishes and are attacking the aunt. We have had two more phone calls tonight, all trying to get us riled up and mad at the aunt!!

[Deb]

So sorry about the family feud, Gardenwitch. {{gentle hugs}}

I know when my parents start their trip toward the light it's going to be total insanity.

I have a cuckoo sister who hasn't been in contact with any of us in a few years now. (Which is fine - when she's in our life, there is just TOO MUCH drama.)
My parents have instructed me and my baby sister not to contact her - even in the event of their passing. We are to go about our business as if she doesn't exist.


I hope everyone calms down and realizes it was Grannie's decision and leaves your Aunt alone.

[mermaid]

I'm sorry Garden. Hopefully everyone will chill out & instead focus on what/who is important - Grannie and leave your aunt alone.

We haven't spoken to my inlaws in over 2 weeks. It's been SO Peaceful!

[gardenwitch]

I don't talk to FIL normally, but he called Dh while we were in the truck and the bluetooth picked up the call.

I guess my MIL isn't to know ANYTHING, and isn't allowed to visit at all (by grannie's request) but my SIL found out, which means my MIL will know soon enough. My SIL's way of "staying out of the drama" is just to tell everyone everything which makes everyone mad at her and each other, instead of just keeping her mouth shut.


I'm hoping Grannie can hang on until April so we can sneak in a visit, and we aren't telling anyone but the Aunt we will be coming LOL!