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Post by Cankles on Feb 4, 2012 23:54:37 GMT -5
WOOO HOOO less than 24hrs until J is home after 10.5 months away!!  OK so as excited as I am, I am also super nervous and anxious about sharing things with him again and also not being in the house alone with B anymore. Is this odd? I kinda am feeling like he will be "intruding" which is soooo horrible I know but has anyone else gotten like this when their DH gets home? |
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Post by littleduck on Feb 5, 2012 0:27:14 GMT -5
WOOO HOOO less than 24hrs until J is home after 10.5 months away!! OK so as excited as I am, I am also super nervous and anxious about sharing things with him again and also not being in the house alone with B anymore. Is this odd? I kinda am feeling like he will be "intruding" which is soooo horrible I know but has anyone else gotten like this when their DH gets home? N should be home for R&R in March and home from this deployment between August and January. Yeah, huge window. I was just talking to him today about how we will have an adjustment period. It will be wierd for both of us. For him having chores and stuff and me not living on my own any more. I think it's completely normal to go through that. He got upset when I was talking to him about it because at this point he doesn't see things that way. Realistically though you create a life without this person and when they come home you have to remorph it to fit with them again. That doesn't happen instantly and with sunshine and happy faces 24/7. I would only be worried if the happy to have them home didn't outway the unhappy or negative side. |
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Post by skooch on Feb 5, 2012 0:44:43 GMT -5
Totally normal. And sex will feel like cheating at first. And don't worry about you're gnawing on when he picks up the remote.....its just his hand  |
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Post by meaniepants on Feb 5, 2012 7:18:09 GMT -5
LoL my house has been much cleaner since my hubby's been gone. I told him when he comes back things are gonna change. I'm not his maid anymore. I seriously have only had to clean my toilet twice since he's been gone. You don't wanna know the shit he did to that poor toilet. *pun intended*
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Post by Maureen on Feb 5, 2012 9:22:46 GMT -5
I was actually kinda annoyed when I found out when Michael was coming home. Of course I wanted him home but I was scared he would screw up our schedule and routine we had going on. He didn't. It was still hard and he felt like no one needed him and therefore he didn't feel included. I had to "let him in" so to speak and let him do things around the house. It was weird. It's still kinda weird. He's on leave right now and volunteers to pick up Cadence which is actually more of a hassle for me than me picking her up but the little things like that are helping him feel included.
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Post by mamaky on Feb 5, 2012 9:24:50 GMT -5
My husband comes home sometime this month. I am dreading it!
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Post by ~*Ks Mommy*~ on Feb 5, 2012 11:08:59 GMT -5
I didn't have sex until 3 days after DH came home. Very very odd, but it was so weird to have him home. I was so used to staying completely away from men, it was just weird having a man back home...in my bed.
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Post by gardenwitch on Feb 5, 2012 12:04:58 GMT -5
Is that the mess at Marston today? Woohoo, congrats on Homecoming!
I had no problem with him getting home and doing chores. Stuff like mowing the yard, taking the trash out, dealing with the cars. That's his stuff so I have no qualms about turning it back over to him. But, we have been doing this forever too. He's gradually gotten into cooking and helping with the dishes more often too.
It took us months to get back into a 'routine' though. His leave, the trip to Bristol, the hurricane and then Hawaii, right after he went back to work they went to the field for two weeks, then the ball, everything felt kindof rushed for a bit after all the peace and quiet I had by myself.
The bed part wasn't weird at all, but I'm so used to sharing the bed with the dogs, what's one more body in there? LOL!
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