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Post by sugartits on Sept 16, 2011 14:32:32 GMT -5
As parents (hopefully all do), we teach our kids to share or take turns when they are young.
Is there an age where it's appropriate to tell them they don't have to anymore?
Thoughts?
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Post by mermaid on Sept 16, 2011 14:41:31 GMT -5
Example?
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Post by Jodi on Sept 16, 2011 14:45:43 GMT -5
Hmm. I've taught them from the beginning. Luke is great with sharing, Connor, not so much. But you do bring up a good point, there is a time when they will not want to share certain things or they may not want to.
Like, say they are older and eating their lunch at school. Just because Betty Sue wants Luke's sandwich, doesn't mean he should give it to her.
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Post by Deb on Sept 16, 2011 14:55:24 GMT -5
Sharing food shouldn't be encouraged. Schools forbid it due to allergies. It depends on what the item is to share - playground balls, legos, hot wheels cars- always. Expensive sporting equipment like bats, gloves, - NEVER Personal items like shoes, protective equipment- NEVER
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Post by Jodi on Sept 16, 2011 14:57:21 GMT -5
I never really thought about this. I always just say "share, share share"
:/ I think they will end up being pushovers like me. haha
Thanks for the thought of the day sugar.
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Post by sugartits on Sept 16, 2011 14:59:38 GMT -5
Jodi gives a good example.
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Post by sugartits on Sept 16, 2011 15:02:45 GMT -5
I never really thought about this. I always just say "share, share share" :/ I think they will end up being pushovers like me. haha Thanks for the thought of the day sugar. I'm hesitant to post why because it will probably make me look like a big old meanie. lol But FTR, I have always taught my kids to share or take turns. BUT as they get older, their stuff is their stuff. I expect my kids to play nice with others when it comes to regular toys BUT certain electronic toys, I'm weary of.
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Post by mermaid on Sept 16, 2011 15:03:46 GMT -5
I agree w/ Deb.
H was taught to share, but then with certain toys, electronics, etc no. If someone else's kid breaks it more than likely they wouldn't replace it so it would end up being my kid that was punished. Before she had friends over, we'd go through her room & remove whatever objects she didn't want to share, didn't want her friends playing with. That way it wouldn't create a scene.
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Post by sugartits on Sept 16, 2011 15:04:42 GMT -5
It basically has to do with electronic toys. I agree with Deb on the other stuff as well.
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Post by Deb on Sept 16, 2011 15:10:18 GMT -5
My oldest is a pushover like that... He has MANY friends, but feels the need to share his baseball equipment whenever anyone asks so the guys "like" him. Sometimes I think they "like" him because he has all the latest and greatest equipment. :-( So far, a brand new wooden bat and a catcher's chest protector have been broken/ruined. They've not been replaced, nor was compensation been offered when the damage occured. He wants it replaced, it's up to him now.
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Post by mermaid on Sept 16, 2011 15:11:04 GMT -5
Electronic toys like Nintendo DS, Ipod, etc? Nope, no sharing if your child doesn't want to. Especially with someone outside the family. Those things are so easily damaged and are expensive.
H had a friend, her supposed best friend in 4th/5th grade steal her DS games. I've posted about the girl before (not that anyone would remember lol) but the same girl also pissed the bed & then lied about it. After confronting the mother about the missing game, the friendship went south. They got together one more time after that and suddenly the game was found. It was a nintendogs game that only came w/ that special colored DS & couldn't just be purchased. That girl didn't have that DS.
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Post by mermaid on Sept 16, 2011 15:12:55 GMT -5
Oh Deb, that's how my nephew is/was. Even still at age 18. He's got a very nice truck & gets convinced to go out mudding in it, etc & ruins it, damages the transmission, etc. Suddenly when he needs a ride, his friends bail on him. Some kids are such users.
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Post by Deb on Sept 16, 2011 15:17:38 GMT -5
My oldest is going to be 17 soon. He's just such a people pleaser - never sees the bad in people. I love my son to death - he's as intelligent as they come, but when it come to common sense, he's as dumb as a box of rocks. I REALLY worry about him going out into the world. Now, my soon to be 11 yr old, he's a little too "street wise". I so wish I could take some of that from the little one and give it to the big one...
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Post by Jodi on Sept 16, 2011 15:28:54 GMT -5
I'm like that. I like to give people too many chances and trust too easily. I hope my boys have a stronger back bone lol
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Post by sugartits on Sept 16, 2011 15:43:43 GMT -5
[glow=red,2,300]Electronic toys like Nintendo DS, Ipod, etc? Nope, no sharing if your child doesn't want to. Especially with someone outside the family. Those things are so easily damaged and are expensive.[/glow]H had a friend, her supposed best friend in 4th/5th grade steal her DS games. I've posted about the girl before (not that anyone would remember lol) but the same girl also pissed the bed & then lied about it. After confronting the mother about the missing game, the friendship went south. They got together one more time after that and suddenly the game was found. It was a nintendogs game that only came w/ that special colored DS & couldn't just be purchased. That girl didn't have that DS. Yes, that kind of stuff. I guess I'm not big old meanie afterall.
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