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Post by littleduck on Sept 16, 2011 12:55:25 GMT -5
Who's been through them? What are the major differences (other than length of course) between 12ish and 6ish month deployments? I'm extremely anxious about this deployment
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Post by mamaky on Sept 16, 2011 13:11:15 GMT -5
We are one our third year-long deployment now. For me there isn't much of a difference other than he's not here for the holidays and birthdays. Even when he is home, I'm the one still doing everything (school, appointments, housework, yardwork, etc) My only complaint and worry is if one of the kids gets sick. Granted 3 of my kids are old enough I can leave them home for a few hours in the morning so I can go to my college classes, but if the youngest gets sick than I'm stuck missing school to be home with him. (Thankfully my husband's job allows for him to help in those situations when he is home.)
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Post by Erin on Sept 16, 2011 13:24:10 GMT -5
My husbands is only 7 months, but won't be here for a year. he and this other dude he works with here is attaching to a different unit so that's why he won't be here for a year.
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Post by Jodi on Sept 16, 2011 14:04:34 GMT -5
It's really not much different than a 7 month, except they get R&R. No deployment is fun. This one is just not fun a bit longer :/
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Post by Monkey Manners on Sept 16, 2011 14:11:56 GMT -5
I agree w Jodi.
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Post by KP on Sept 16, 2011 14:25:09 GMT -5
My husband is on an 11 month. It suckssss.. No r&r.. poo.
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Post by Cankles on Sept 16, 2011 14:40:23 GMT -5
Mine is on the same as KP and the only thing that bothers/annoys me (and yes I know it's wrong of me to think this way) is when I talk to people and their husbands left after J and will be back before J It makes me angry, sad, and annoyed.
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Post by mermaid on Sept 16, 2011 14:43:21 GMT -5
Dh's last one was supposed to be a year, it ended up being 14 months for him. It SUCKED. That was a really bad year. R&R was miserable too. I didn't think that deployment was ever going to end.
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Post by SaRaH :o) on Sept 16, 2011 16:42:41 GMT -5
I havent had the experience but for those whose husbands have had longer deployments and have gotten R&R - does that make it HARDER on you/your family when they come home mid deployment?
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Post by blubberiffic on Sept 16, 2011 16:53:54 GMT -5
I havent had the experience but for those whose husbands have had longer deployments and have gotten R&R - does that make it HARDER on you/your family when they come home mid deployment? No. It was great. He got home for Christmas I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. I think the people that don't R&R together are idiots. Like when the husband goes on his own vacay alone instead of coming home. Stupid. If you have young kids I think a year is a little harder than 7 months because so much happens in that time. I think if you don't have kids it's just another deployment to suck up and get over.
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Post by SaRaH :o) on Sept 16, 2011 16:55:13 GMT -5
I havent had the experience but for those whose husbands have had longer deployments and have gotten R&R - does that make it HARDER on you/your family when they come home mid deployment? No. It was great. He got home for Christmas I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. I think the people that don't R&R together are idiots. Like when the husband goes on his own vacay alone instead of coming home. Stupid. If you have young kids I think a year is a little harder than 7 months because so much happens in that time. I think if you don't have kids it's just another deployment to suck up and get over. Christmas is some GOOD timing lol
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Post by mamaky on Sept 16, 2011 17:01:05 GMT -5
My husband tried to pull that crap on me...said he would get a hotel room for the 2 weeks he was home so he wouldn't interfer with my routine with the kids! Ummm, I don't think so!! If that's what you want to do, you might as well stay in Afghanistan! He likes to play mind games with me so I knew he was wanting to get a reaction out of me.
I think it was easier on my kids this time around because we were visiting our family back home in Wisconsin when my husband came for his R&R. The deployment before that it was hard on my kids to say goodbye again, but they bounced back faster than when the deployment first kicked off.
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Post by mermaid on Sept 16, 2011 17:16:32 GMT -5
I havent had the experience but for those whose husbands have had longer deployments and have gotten R&R - does that make it HARDER on you/your family when they come home mid deployment? Mine was a total sourpuss during it. He was dropping his retirement papers shortly after they got back. He was all worried about finding a job, having enough money, etc etc so he couldn't enjoy the vacation. All he saw was $ signs everywhere. So for us, it sucked. I couldn't wait for him to get on that plane & go back. It was a miserable 2 weeks. Of course because he didn't tell me his fears, what he was worried about, etc. He just stayed quiet the whole vacation. I didn't find out what was really going through his thick skull til a couple of months later when we started talking about his return home. So for us & making it harder.... nope. I wanted him out of my sight after that R&R. H didn't seem to care either. We were both PO'd at him.
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Post by KP on Sept 16, 2011 17:43:33 GMT -5
Mine is on the same as KP and the only thing that bothers/annoys me (and yes I know it's wrong of me to think this way) is when I talk to people and their husbands left after J and will be back before J It makes me angry, sad, and annoyed. That's what I'm facing with my very best friend.. I'm even photographing her homecoming. It'll be an emotional day for me, but I wouldn't have any other person do it for her.
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Post by blubberiffic on Sept 16, 2011 18:09:38 GMT -5
Oh and for people with younger kids pertaining to R&R.......PICK HIM UP AT THE AIRPORT! You don't want him just showing up at home because that WILL be hard on the kids. IT's good to go get him and drop him off at the end and to also tell the kids that daddy is coming home for "break time" but has to go back.
Granted, JoJo thought the airport was Iraq for awhile, but he was never confused thinking daddy might walk in any minute. And he was also never confused when J was home for good that he might not come back from work.
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