paj14
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Post by paj14 on Sept 13, 2011 21:22:21 GMT -5
She complains ALL the time about her husband, dog, kids, life and everything in between. Well, when she asks for advice or brings something up... any and all suggestions I give are shot down with another negative whoa is me excuse. I'm just getting burned out... fast. Do I just let it fizzle out and go my way or do I say something?
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Post by meaniepants on Sept 13, 2011 21:24:26 GMT -5
Kick her to the curb.
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justmesharon
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Post by justmesharon on Sept 13, 2011 21:24:46 GMT -5
friend no, mother yes.
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Post by susie on Sept 13, 2011 21:26:58 GMT -5
I'd probably limit contact with her, or tell her to not ask for advice if she doesn't want to take any of it.
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paj14
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Post by paj14 on Sept 13, 2011 21:28:11 GMT -5
Oh goodness... can't kick those to the curb:/
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paj14
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Post by paj14 on Sept 13, 2011 21:29:08 GMT -5
Hell no! Tell her to get the crank out of her ass and lighten up. Life is too short to be miserable all the time. Just tell her she is too much of a downer and every time you are around her, you feel like getting into a hot bath and using a straight razor on your wrists. Maybe that will catch her attention. LOL You're right, that MIGHT get her attention...
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Post by McVooDoo on Sept 13, 2011 21:29:52 GMT -5
She complains ALL the time about her husband, dog, kids, life and everything in between. Well, when she asks for advice or brings something up... any and all suggestions I give are shot down with another negative whoa is me excuse. I'm just getting burned out... fast. Do I just let it fizzle out and go my way or do I say something? Is she just venting to you maybe? I had a buddy who'd let me vent like that last deployment and I know I must have sounded like a shrew, but it kept me from snapping like a lunatic. She was awesome about it.
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Post by Jodi on Sept 13, 2011 21:29:55 GMT -5
Just point and laugh. I like people even more that have drama statuses every day and randomly shout how they are deleting a bunch of friends.
No one cares.
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Post by meaniepants on Sept 13, 2011 21:29:55 GMT -5
Hell no! Tell her to get the crank out of her ass and lighten up. Life is too short to be miserable all the time. Just tell her she is too much of a downer and every time you are around her, you feel like getting into a hot bath and using a straight razor on your wrists. Maybe that will catch her attention. lol
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Post by McVooDoo on Sept 13, 2011 21:30:15 GMT -5
Hell no! Tell her to get the crank out of her ass and lighten up. Life is too short to be miserable all the time. Just tell her she is too much of a downer and every time you are around her, you feel like getting into a hot bath and using a straight razor on your wrists. Maybe that will catch her attention. But ^this did make me lol.
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paj14
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Post by paj14 on Sept 13, 2011 21:31:09 GMT -5
I'd probably limit contact with her, or tell her to not ask for advice if she doesn't want to take any of it. Yeah, I started to refrain from initiating contact. That has helped a little in the way that I don't talk to her AS often but her husband is about to deploy and I'm thinking that may make it all worse!:/ PLEASE NO! lol... I might just have to straight up say it to her face if I want anything to change.
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Post by Jodi on Sept 13, 2011 21:31:11 GMT -5
haha
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Post by Erin on Sept 13, 2011 21:40:03 GMT -5
It's more of an acquaintance, but yea. Definitely. Which is why I barely talk to her annoying ass now. I dislike people who are full of excuses.
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Post by Deb on Sept 13, 2011 21:41:08 GMT -5
I'd probably limit contact with her, or tell her to not ask for advice if she doesn't want to take any of it. Yeah, I started to refrain from initiating contact. That has helped a little in the way that I don't talk to her AS often but her husband is about to deploy and I'm thinking that may make it all worse!:/ PLEASE NO! lol... I might just have to straight up say it to her face if I want anything to change. She's so self absorbed, she won't "get it" when you tell her. I had a "friend" like that. She also liked to be a bitch about stuff, and then when she would get called on it, try to laugh it off as if she were "only kidding" and I was getting butt hurt over nothing. I just noticed, she deleted me as a FB friend! LOL Guess she expects me to contact her. Um, no, I don't need people like that in my life.
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paj14
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Post by paj14 on Sept 13, 2011 21:41:23 GMT -5
She complains ALL the time about her husband, dog, kids, life and everything in between. Well, when she asks for advice or brings something up... any and all suggestions I give are shot down with another negative whoa is me excuse. I'm just getting burned out... fast. Do I just let it fizzle out and go my way or do I say something? Is she just venting to you maybe? I had a buddy who'd let me vent like that last deployment and I know I must have sounded like a shrew, but it kept me from snapping like a lunatic. She was awesome about it. She has a few other friends around here but I don't know any of them. So I'm not for sure but I hear her talk to her mom and sister on the phone and she sounds the same so I'm assuming just by that, that she is generally like that. I can't deny the fact that her husband is truly a jerk even in front of people but she never does anything about it. Just like everything else she complains about... she never does anything to change what she doesn't like. I love when people feel comfortable enough to vent to me and confide in me. I'll listen with the best of 'em. This seems like a whole different issue. I'll mention it to her next time something comes up and see how it goes from there... What have I got to lose at this point? :/
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